Monday, September 17, 2007
The Line
You know that imaginary line that you should not cross? Certain comments that might pop into your head, but get the STOP! before they cross your lips?? The sign in my head has always been a green light. As I have matured and gotten older, I think I have gotten better about at least YIELDing before I speak, thus creating fewer embarrassing moments for both myself and those I'm conversing with. However, the other night at work, I definitely crossed it. The moment I spoke I regretted what had come out. It was Friday night and my co-workers seemed to be shocked that I am "showing" at all. Most of them have no kids and those that do must forget that it happens more quickly on #2 and 3...etc. So I decided not to get offended and enjoy that yes, I have a little belly (and no I have not been drinking too many beers on my days off...). One lady in particular had already commented several times about my appearance and I was internally fighting annoyance with her. Her last comment: she looked at me (with several people around) and said " I just can't believe how big your belly is" which I replied (without thinking for even 1 second) "I can't believe how big your belly is." Ummmm....she is overweight. And really does have a big belly. SHOOOOOOOOTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!! Did I really say that???????????? She laughed and walked away and I was busy the rest of the night so I didn't get to say anything else to her. I told Jason about it in the morning and he couldn't' believe I had said that. I KNEW I had to apologize. So on Saturday night in a quiet moment when we were alone in a room, I apologized and told her it just came out without me even thinking...she was totally fine and not offended at all...but it could have been bad. Really bad. Lesson learned. I hope.
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Oh Care... that killed me! I know what you mean... it escaped before you even had the chance to filter it. I am proud of you for getting up the courage to apologize! That took guts! Now that I've said all the appropriate good job comments, can I just say how hard I laughed imagining this little scenario!?!?! YOU SAID WHAT!? Oh man... still laughing. At least you can blame some of it on the hormones, right?! You are stinking adorable pregnant. That's all there is to it.
(Is it bad that a little part of me, the part God is still working on, is a tiny bit happy that you said it?? SO BAD, i know! )I hate those moments, though. From the time I could talk I think I knew, and everyone else around me knew, that holding my tongue would be a life-long battle for me. I still have this one memory burned into my brain of something so stupid I said to an old friend of mine. I never saw her again after that so I was never able to apologize. I still pray that God has wiped it from her memory and that her view of believers wasn't tainted. Oh man, the tongue, what a powerful tool it is. I'm glad you got to apologize!
(I'm still laughing a little bit though!)
First of all, you SO do not have a big belly. I really have come to believe that people in general just forget what pregnant women look like. For some reason, bellies continue to be shocking even though there are thousands of pregnant women walking around at any given moment. Even though what you said was not kind, I sort of feel like you stuck up for all of us pregnant women who hear unkind comments EVERY DAY! I, too, need to work on my "kind" response. Here's what I have so far: "I know, I get really big with my babies. But it sure is worth it, huh?" Now THAT's the truth. =)
Funny!
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